It’s amazing how fortunate I feel to have found Kota Bharu and the group of friends associated with the manager and his family which run the place I’ve been staying at for nearly 5 months now. And, I’ve got no plans anywhere in the near future of leaving this place as my base camp. Nope. None.
Sure. I’ve got to leave every 90 days to satisfy Malaysia’s very fair (and free) tourist visa requirements, but that’s actually a cool thing. I just leave for 2-3 weeks and come back as was suggested to me by an officer at the immigration department down in Putrajaya. Easy – Mudah! No concerns what so ever regarding coming back in to MY and returning to the beautifully laid-back ambiance of Kota Bharu. I love this place.
But what makes it so wonderful are its people, culture and open mindedness. My friends are all considerably younger than myself, yet I am treated just like one of the gang. We laugh, we go out to eat, play with our vaping toys and ride our bicycles together while constantly laughing and having fun. They think nothing of going out for a 20 or so kilometer ride, starting out at around 10:00 or 11:00 at night. Countless are the times that we’ve come back home after 1:00am.
And to add to the adoration of this place is that there very few if any tourists. The tourist population typically heads for the islands and their resorts. Sure… diving, swimming pools, white sand beaches and lots of drinking. I was surrounded by all that during my year + in the diving business on Koh Tao in Thailand. That was enough. I favor peacefulness and tranquility and that’s the norm in KB as well along eastern peninsular Malaysia and its inlands as well. Very chill, warmly receptive and extremely relaxing just hanging out at local restaurants and coffee places.
And the cycling around Kelantan, Kuala Terengganu and Kuantan? Sweet would be an understatement.
But it all comes back to the feeling of family and ‘a part of’ here in KB. It’s the same with the great people at the bicycle shop, restaurants and all the people I meet in between. I am a source of fascination in the general public and virtually everyone I bump into asks about where I’m from, why I’m here, why I love it so much and when do I plan to return to the USA. “Never” is my default answer to that question and I mean it in all sincerity. I find superficiality and the extensive identification with materialism to be too much to bear back there.
Here, life is much simpler. Everyone is happy with what they have and the focus of their happiness is directed to much more human qualities than “so, what do you do?”. No one asks me about work, or if they do, I simply answer “retired” and then the conversation immediately shifts to things more enjoyable. Nothing is complicated here. No one is in a hurry to get or do anything. Traffic moves slowly and the traffic lights? Even slower.
In spite of the fact that I’ll unlikely ever assume a religion, the presence of Malay Muslim is pacifying enormously. The principals of manners, politeness and etiquette are prevalent everywhere and equally the lack of debauchery so rife elsewhere is a total relief in and of itself. The people here wouldn’t allow such a thing as what is the status quo up north; yet another reason why westerners don’t come here. The featured “attractions” up north are nonexistent here, along with the hustle and the hype. I’m treated just as any other Malay is treated. I pay what they pay and there’s no ‘tourist pricing’ going on. Such humble and honest people. I can lean my bike up against a lamp post, run in to a store and it’ll still be there when I get back. Rarely do I bother with a lock. That’s just the way it is down here. People don’t mess with things as they do elsewhere.
Still, it comes back to the feelings and experience of family, the likes of which I have with my crew, my host/best friend, wife, children and mother. I’ve never felt I’ve ‘belonged’ anywhere. Sure, I’ve lived and enjoyed many great places, people, sports, etc., but this life in KB with my friends is unequalled. Easy on the system, lots of fun, plenty of exercise cycling and quiet dinners with the family.
Off to Malacca tomorrow evening for a few days, road tripping with some of the gang. Psyched. Bikes? Yup. They all fit neatly in the back of the car. Perfect. Let’s go…